What is self-confidence?
What are the natural enemies of self confidence?
Fear of rejection
Fear of losing a friend or loved one
Fear of failure
Fear of people
Stand up straight
Shake hands firmly
Make Eye Contact
Changing your self talk
Speak "I can" instead of "I can't"
Smile and try to think a negative thought
Using daily affirmations
How to gain self confidence
Factors in gaining self confidence
While the process of attaining self confidence starts from childhood,
an adult can still gain self confidence through his determination
and through the support of his family and friends.
- Parental support and
People begin to develop confidence while growing up. The role
of parents in instilling self confidence in their children
is very important. Parents who are always critical of their children
without acknowledging the latter's strengths unknowingly dampen
the development of their self confidence.
On the other hand, parents who
are always willing to give support while encouraging their children
to take a step forward will
most likely rear self confident children. Parents who make
their children feel loved and accepted despite their imperfections
will most likely encourage self confidence.
Lack of self confidence is not
proportional to a person's abilities. In fact, there are people
who are extremely
talented and able
but they lack self confidence to show these abilities.
If you are wanting in self confidence,
then you must continuously do things that will help you gain confidence.
Identify your strengths and weaknesses
and capitalize on that. Make full use of your strength and gather
This will help you gain self confidence. Do not expect
everything to be perfect because you are bound to do
along the way. Nobody is perfect and everyone is culpable
Acknowledge your abilities and
talent and take stock of them. Do not under estimate yourself.
Try to recognize
thing you have done which has become successful.
learn a new skill, and try to learn new things
as this will make
you a better person.Look for things that make you
feel good about yourself. It can be photos of past achievements
you won a race
a debate; it can be a poem you wrote which was
published in a book. Concentrate on things that
you have achieved
from there. This will give you more confidence
to do other things in life.
Developing self confidence is
not easy especially if you do not think highly of yourself. If
things that will discourage you from gaining confidence.
not dwell on past mistakes or failures because
it will make you feel
insignificant. Being a defeatist will not give
your confidence a boost.
Better yet, concentrate on the
positive things that you have done and accomplished and make them
time, you will have more faith in yourself, and hopefully,
In the upcoming chapter we will
narrow our focus, look at the specifics and come up with definitive
that you can put to work in your life to achieve
in all you do.