What are the natural enemies of self confidence?
Fear: The Natural Enemy of Self Confidence
Self-Confidence is generally
described as the ability of an individual to have faith and belief
in his/her abilities. According
to psychiatrists when one
has self-confidence it normally results in having great self-esteem.
Self-esteem is defined as the “worth” that
one can place on himself. It is his measurement of his own value
as a person, in agreement to his behavior.
In addition, it is referred to
as the respect and adoration in which one holds himself based on
ones belief of what and
who he is as a human being.
affects one’s feelings about himself, about his life, about his relationships,
and eventually determines his actions or how he accomplishes things.
The progress and growth of self-confidence
correctly starts with self examination. The mind should be thoroughly
so that detrimental inclinations
are checked, weaknesses are eliminated, and a right pattern of thought
are established firmly.
According to studies fear is
man's enemy hindering self confidence. These studies stressed clearly
that ”fear thought” is an illness that can be
detected and identified. It largely arises from corrupt mental pattern,
wherein the mind is allowed consistently to dwell on doubtful thoughts,
and failure. This power will become great, when freely allowed, affecting
your life to a less or greater degree in virtually every undertaking.
Ignorance is the basic and prime
cause of fear, that when one is not aware of his “true nature”.
A study showed that when one was convinced or has encountered his
indestructible infinite “soul-nature”, then
one would never feel fear. However, there are those who cannot or do
not accept this, thus they feel separate, vulnerable, susceptible
Fear of one’s self is demonstrated
in several ways. You can experience shyness, diffidence, bashfulness,
timidity and a need of “self-confidence”.
Here are some factors
that contribute to one’s fear:
1. When we feel separated, fear increases. A fact is that one
does not fear those he is familiar with (people and surroundings).
is a certain feeling of estrangement, which exhibits overall sense
or impression of suspicion.
2. Attachment to individuals
as well as material things associated with one’s
security cause one to fear that one might loose them, so one
will do everything in order to protect one’s relationships,
possessions or his self-image.
3. Strange surroundings and unfamiliar
people bring about fear. Unfamiliar situations threat one’s
security and usually one reacts with extreme caution and at times,
4. One’s negative memory
of past experiences where one had either suffered or witnessed
loss, harm or death aggravates fear. The subconscious retains
memories of the past and at certain circumstances, these
5. Imagination at times can create
or invent images of trouble, suffering or pain outside physical
truth or reality. Note
is never negative,
however when misused and abused, it can bring so much fear
Combat fear by developing self-confidence.
Here are few guidelines:
1. Emphasize your strengths. Focus on what it is that
you are capable of achieving and praise yourself for
and your struggle
focusing on the
results. Beginning on a foundation of things that you
rather than what should you be doing will help you live
and work within your
2. Talk to yourself. Examine
yourself and practice how to handle situations as well as counter
when to stop
when you catch
yourself in a negative assumption.
For instance, when you find yourself
demanding perfection, tell yourself that everything can not result
allow you to
believe in yourself
at the same time that you are striving to get better.
3. Evaluate yourself. Practice
how to independently evaluate yourself. This will let you avoid
of confusion that
results when you
are relying completely on the opinions and judgment
4. Take those risks. When you
face and accept experiences as instruments for learning than possibilities
to lose or win,
can be unlocked
and this can develop your self awareness and
Remember, self-confidence can
be developed, not inherited; and fear can be overcome because
you have the trust
and the faith
so. Read as much as you can and then practise
and act out as required. The more you do it, the better you become
at overcoming your difficulties and becoming a better person.